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Sunday, January 22, 2006

Dad's Status

This is a downer. Consider yourselves warned.


I originally had a much longer and more detailed post written, but I'm scrapping it.

This has been a very hard year for my Father. I’ve written about it before, here, here and here. It’s also been a tough year for my Mom, having to make the kinds of decisions that have been put before her. It's also been very hard for me.

My Dad has pneumonia and is in the hospital. He seems to be doing well as far as that's concerned. He has also developed some infected sores on his legs, and had to have his left leg amputated above the knee. That's why I was in New York. Any crazy dream I may have had about my Father walking again and going back home is now gone.

I'm most concerned about his diminishing level of energy. Right now, it seems like even keeping his eyes open is a major effort. I've spoken with his doctors and made my own recommendations. I'm in touch with them and my family. That's all I can do right now.

We now return to our regularly scheduled blog, already in progress.

31 comments:

Irina Tsukerman said...

Thanks for the update. I'm sorry to hear the sad news. Refuah shleima.

Ayelet said...

I'm so sorry. That is a lot to deal with. I wish him a refu'a shleima, and I wish you the strength to deal with whatever challenges that may come your way.

Stacey said...

Oh Mark, I am so sorry to hear this. Thoughts and prayers are with your Dad and entire family.

The photo of the two of you is awesome.

Neil said...

I'm sorry. I love that photo, too. You're both so fashionably dressed.

MC Aryeh said...

You are bringing back many memories of my grandmother and decisions we had to face for her. It is so hard and frustrating to not be able to do anything to actively change the situation. I wish your dad and your entire family strength and good things in the future, and that your dad has a refuah shleimah from the pneumonia and that his energy level goes back up....very sweet picture...

Robin said...

Mark,

Our thoughts are with you on this side of the ocean....

R&R

zahava said...

So very sorry to hear. We are thinking of all of you and will daven for your father's refuah sheleima.

Terri in PA said...

I have been lurking on your blog daily after having been led here from Jack's & Stacey's blogs. I absolutely love reading all of the posts about your children and your relationships with your family.
From the very bottom of my heart I am sorry to hear about your father. Watching our parents slow down and face the end is one of the most difficult times we must have to go through in our lives. I hope that your father will have the strength to recover. From the posts here it seems that he has a bunch of people praying for him, and for you and your family.
Best wishes and love for you and yours.
Terri

PsychoToddler said...

Thanks again. I really appreciate all the support. I've also told my Mom that there are people around the world who are thinking about my Father, and she was astounded.

MCAryeh:

It's Eliezer Aryeh ben Perel

Val said...

Thinking of you and your family at this difficult time.

Essie said...

So sorry for you and your family. Refua Sheleima.

cruisin-mom said...

My best to you and your family P.T. I can only imagine what a difficult and sad time this is for you. Thoughts are coming all the way from California.

Wickwire said...

I will think of your father at tomorrow's daybreak prayer I'll be attending. I love that picture.

Ezzie said...

Oy. I'm so sorry. Refuah Shleimah to him, koach to all of you.

Ralphie said...

Whoa - very sorry to hear that. My thoughts are with you.

Jack's Shack said...

So sorry to hear this. My best wishes go out to you and your family.

treppenwitz said...

I wish there was something even remotely comforting I could say to you, but you're the doc... you know the territory as well as anyone. Just know that your father is in our thoughts and prayers.

Kiwi the Geek said...

I feel very redundant, but refuah shleima. Praying for him and you.

PsychoToddler said...

UPDATE:

My Dad is a little better today. My mom called. Before I left, I asked the doctor to try a little Ritalin. Ritalin calms down children with ADHD, but in elderly people with strokes or general weakness, it perks them up a little.

After 3 or 4 days, my Dad suddenly has woken up. But now he's hyperalert. He's also delirious. He told my mother to go home and get him some clean clothes, because he has to catch a flight to Miami where he plans to marry some woman named Jackie.

Well, so maybe it's not better. But at least it's DIFFERENT. I wonder if they can give him a smaller dose.

He still doesn't realize he had the amputation, but he did comment that his foot doesn't hurt anymore.

Shira Salamone said...

You have a lot on your plate, and so do your mother and sisters. I'll second Ezzie, and wish you and your entire family koach.

I'm keeping Eliezer Aryeh ben Perel on my mi-sh'berach list. I've added him to my "r'faeinu" prayer during the weekday Amidah.

Shmiel said...

Hang in there....It must be tough....Refuah shelema B'Karov

Anonymous said...

PT, I enjoy your posts so much and also those of your wife and daughter. I'm so sorry about your father. My father had a foot amputated, and I felt so sad about that. So, I send you my wishes that things go well for him and that you feel God's arms around you.

torontopearl said...

Mark, we're still davening for your dad.
Wishing him continued strength, as well as your mother, yourself and siblings.
One day at a time...
Refuah shlema.

Stacey said...

Glad he is a little better. How interesting about the Ritalin. Continued prayers coming his way.

Tzipster91 said...

I heard about it a few days ago. I'm really sorry. Now that I know the name I'll try, to daven for him too. I wish your whole family strength to overcome all the obstacles that may appear in your path.

PsychoToddler said...

Thank you, Tzippy. It looks like I don't have a monopoly on teenagers who are mentchs.

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blueenclave said...

I hope for a refuah shleima as well.

Doctor Bean said...

Yuck. Delerium is the pits, but I guess the blessing is that once he becomes lucid he won't remember all this misery.

But you will. Hope you're hanging in there.

PsychoToddler said...

UPDATE: 1/27:

Mom says he was a little better yesterday. More alert, more sarcastic, which my mother didn't appreciate but I take as a positive development.

I've been prodding his doctors to do certain things which I think is annoying them (the implication being that the out of town doctor relative needs to tell them what to do because they are incompetent), but I think they are paying better attention to him as a result. Mom says the facial and arm swelling is improved. He's on more antibiotics.

Keep him in your prayers.

PsychoToddler said...

UPDATE 2/7:

I suppose I should give an update for those of you who are still following:

Dad's still in the hospital. They tried to put a feeding tube into his stomach today but were unsuccessful. He's scheduled for surgery tomorrow.

The last week was a roller coaster ride filled primarily with my attempts to get him transfered to a less awful hospital and a better set of doctors. I was very close, but ultimately unsuccessful.

They say he is improving and may return to the Nursing home after the feeding tube. We'll see...