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Thursday, September 15, 2005

Comment Advice

Hey, Psycho Toddler:

How come you get so many comments? You wrote something utterly moronic and you got 27 comments! It doesn't look like you put any thought or effort into what you write! So why do people leave comments on your blog and not mine?

I wrote a really funny piece and nobody said boo.

A big fan of yours.

Look, Abie, there's a reason people don't leave comments on your blog. It's because you ignore them. I've read your blog. You're very talented. But it's all about you. Youyouyouyouyouyou YOU! A blog isn't your personal soapbox where you can get up and spout off about whatever interests you and then walk away and expect people to adore you. A blog is an interactive medium. That means you have to interact with your readers.

Acknowledge their comments. React to them. Go visit their blogs. Leave thoughtful comments there. And no, don't leave comments like, "hey, nice story, I have a more interesting one here."

The blogosphere is a neighborhood. Be a good neighbor.



Ezzie said...

Excellent post! It's interesting, I always feel bad when I link to myself on other blogs... but sometimes I feel I've made a really relevant point, so it's worth doing (I try to avoid it though).
I just thought I'd mention that I actually enjoy when others put links in the comments on my blog... as annoying as it is to see on other people's (except LGF who encourages it), when someone does it on mine it usually has been to something interesting and worthwhile. Perhaps it's because I have far less readers (I'm pretty new), and the ones I have just happen to link to better stuff; but that's just my own perception.
In general, though, you're right - when I see the links others put up on some blogs, they often seem to be trying to plug their own traffic even on completely irrelevant articles.
Anyways, as always, excellent blog, and if your daughter ever needs a place, we're always open. And we hate NY, if that counts for anything. :)

Wickwire said...

What a weird letter to you PT.

I feel comfortable commenting here because from past posts, I've learned that PT is a caring doctor and loving father and husband. If he is like that in his world, he's like that in blogosphere. Humor plays an extremely huge part too.

Stacey said...

I can't believe someone really said that to you. Moron.

Neil said...

I just post here hoping to one day get free medical advice. My HMO stinks.

Actually, I agree with you. That guy is dense. Out of the 20 billion blogs out there, how is anyone going to even find him if he doesn't interact a bit?

Übermilf said...

It's like people who wonder why they have no friends, yet never extend friendship to others.

I came here from Neil's blog just because I love the title "Psycho Toddler"

Priss said...

You DID link to him, so he should be happy. A mean spirited PT would have left that part out.

Ayelet said...

Call me crazy, but something tells me that calling people's blog entries moronic is not the best way to make friends. What a dunce!

PsychoToddler said...

Ezzie: I never mind if someone puts a link up to something that continues the theme of the post, or is in some way related. I do that myself. In fact, I did it earlier today over at Chandira's blog, although I stopped short of actually putting a link in.

If you have a profile on blogger, you don't need to self promote. If someone likes what you have to say, they can just look at your profile. Your blog is 2 clicks away.

But if you're just coming onto other people's blogs looking for traffic, and dropping a link and leaving, that's just spam.

Wickwire: Dang, I sure got you suckered! Thank you for your kind words, as usual ;-)

Stacey: Thanks alot. First this person calls me a talentless hack, and now you call me a moron. Sheesh.

Neil: Free advice: Find a different HMO. Also stop smoking and stop playing with yourself so much. See if you can't get that Sophia woman to marry you again. Howzat?

Her Milfesty: Thanks for coming by. I like your name too. Believe it or not, there are people out in the blogosphere who are disturbed by my name. To them I say: OK Call me Steve!

Priss: OK Call me mean-spirited! That was not his link. That's a link to a blog parody. Which I think is pretty funny, but what do I know.

Obviously whoever sent me that letter is comfortable enough with me to know that I don't take offense easily and am willing to actually address his (or her) concern.

Ezzie said...

Interesting to note: When I first blogged, I averaged about 2 hits a day (Mom, and... okay, Mom). Now, it's gotten as high as 60 (hey, I'm new!), and it's all because I started randomly looking for other blogs that I found interesting.
You I found simply because I did a search for WITS or Milwaukee or something, and then realized I actually know of you a bit. Once I read your stuff and found it interesting, I kept coming back; and as someone else said, since you seem friendly in your posts, I feel comfortable commenting. I hope the same happens to me in return (as it seems to have a little bit), and that people feel as comfortable on my blog as we all do on yours. Keep it up!

Doctor Bean said...

I noticed that I stopped gettin comments since I stopped posting. What's up with that?

Stacey said...

No, you are not a moron. That would be boogerbreath. Or fartface. ;)

tuesdaywishes said...

I think people comment more if they like the name. Personally, I get very few hits and fewer comments, but I think my hubby is happier that way. He doesn't really want a whole bunch of random strangers hearing about us.

Irina Tsukerman said...

Hmm, I agree with you that a good blogger should interact with the audience, but I also know that there are blogs that do not respond to comments precisely because there are so many of them, yet people have something to say because the writing quality is very good or the blog is funny. Maybe your "fan"'s blog is not as great as he/she thinks it is and that's why no one has anything to say.

Ezzie said...

I don't even think it's just that... certain types of posts lend themselves to comments, particularly life stories - because everyone has a story to share or a detail to ask. I've noticed that when I post about something that happened to us I get more comments than if I write about some news story or the like - despite the latter getting more 'hits'.
People like to share stories. That's one reason we all do this, I believe...

PsychoToddler said...

Ezzie: I think I've said a couple of times that I think the comments are more interesting than the posts. At least on this blog. Some people think the posts are more important, and the comments are to be tolerated only if they are fawningly complimentary to the author. It's a different point of view.

Anyway, I look at this blog a little like my living room. If it was only me here, I'd probably just be sitting there reading a book. But we get some good company over, and it gets interesting...

Bean: I think I has the solution.

Stacey: I prefer Pimplepuss, thank you very much.

Tuesday: I wonder what your hubby thinks of your blog in general? I guess if you want privacy you shouldn't even have a blog. Get an email list and just send stuff to your sister. Once it's out there, it's out there.

Irina: Obviously, a blogger that has so many comments that he/she can't respond to them is not going to be writing to me complaining of a lack of comments!

But I do think there are several really talented bloggers out there who don't get much attention despite what I would consider to be very good writing skill, and it is because they don't get out and socialize with their blogging neighbors. It's a shame. I won't name them because I don't want to reveal who sent the email.

Ezzie: Agreed. Someposts speak for themselves and nothing more needs to be added.

Steg (dos iz nit der šteg) said...

Strong Sad has a blog????


You rock, Doc. They're all just jealous!

PsychoToddler said...

Yes, my brother.

Finally someone gets it!

PsychoToddler said...

BTW, hat tip to Fudge for the Strong Sad blog.

Yes, it's another Homestar Runner in-joke.

Ezzie said...

Sorry, I can't resist - I tried, and I held off a day... but it's too tempting.
"It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood [shoe off], it's a beautiful day in the neighborhood [shoe off], it's a beautiful day in the neighborhood [slipper on], won't you be my neighbor [slipper on]!
Great living room analogy. It's really too bad... obviously your living room is like that, ours definitely is [if you're bored, check out my latest posts on Shabbos... 2 posts and I'm still on halfway through Fri night!], but sadly, many homes aren't. People should relax and be more open.
Never thought I'd say this... but some homes should be more like blogs!

rabbi neil fleischmann said...

It would seem appropriate to get these comments to at least 27, so I'm contributing to the cause.

Well put.

PsychoToddler said...

Ezzie: Occasionally I find myself at my dinner table thinking, "boy, my blogging buddies would be very disappointed by the discussion here. I need to liven things up." Then I take a little more wine and say, "the heck with it."

Rabbi Neil: Thanks. Let's fight the good fight!

Anne said...

If someone blogs in a forest and there's no one there to comment, does it make a sound?

GoldaLeah said...

This is all lovely, and thanks for the song, but the demand for reciprocity in the blogosphere seems out of place. In fact, my blog IS my own personal soapbox where I can spout off about whatever I wish. I don't spend a lot of time reading other blogs -- and I do appreciate the time people spend reading mine, but my entranc ein the blogworld is primarily as a writer, not a reader.

Sorry, I simply don't have the time or inclincation to read all the blogs of all the people who read and comment on mine. And I don't appreciate being called a bad neighbor becuase of that fact. Some of them are wonderful blogs, but every moment spent reading blogs is a moment not spent doing something else, possible productive. (Writing is my life, and is, therefore, always productive in some sense.)

I also don't appreciate people who comment on my blog (which I love!) and come away with an expectation of me. That's an imposition on me. And how, exactly, am I supposed to answer this question: "I visit your blog. I comment on your blog. Why don't you visit and comment on mine?" (Sometimes it's the reason I've stated aboe. Sometimes the blog just isn't interesting to me. Should I really say that?)

Your friendly but apparently bad neighbor,


PsychoToddler said...


You're not a bad neighbor. I happen to know from firsthand experience that you respond to the comments on your blog, and that you do visit other blogs and comment there. No not ALL the blogs. NOBODY can visit ALL the blogs. But you do what you can.

The person who sent me that question writes very interesting things but is completely isolated and makes no effort to interact with others in the blogosphere. That's why there isn't much traffic going that way.

What song?

GoldaLeah said...

"What song?"

Ezzie's rendition of the theme from "Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood"

Ezzie said...

Hey, PT, if you respond to this you'll hit 27!

GL - glad you enjoyed the song! I just wanted to add... I don't think being a good neighbor requires one to respond to every comment or comment on others all the time. Thinking of it as one would a typical neighbor is a better idea: Everyone understands that you can't expect everyone to always be outside visiting everybody else, or they couldn't run their own homes.

On the other hand, nobody likes the neighbor who boards themselves up in their house and never visits with anyone; yet expects those others to come visit them.

You need balance, like you do, like PT, like everyone else here; each person has their own balance, some get out more than others. Yet we're all good neighbors. [Kind of like StateFarm... ok ok weak joke]

PT - Trust me, you don't want it to get too lively. I recently decided I'd write one post on a hilarious Shabbos at our house. Now, it's at four posts, and I'm still on Friday night. (The link is to Part I.) Boring is sometimes better...