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Wednesday, June 08, 2005

The Mrs.

Yesterday marked 18 years of marriage to Mrs. Balabusta. And a pretty amazing 18 years it has been. It's a testament to the power of Jewish marriage that two such different personalities can stay together for so long without driving each other crazy. Yes, we're a little like the "Odd Couple." But they say opposites attract, so...




Mrs. B. has been the real force behind this marriage. I don't tell her often enough how wonderful and talented she is. And I'm not about to start here! So I won't mention how she managed to finish nursing school while still extremely pregnant with her sixth kid. Or how she teaches an aerobics class with Jewish Music to a bunch of high school girls who can barely keep up with her. Or how she recently climbed up on the roof to realign our satellite dish.

Here's a quick story from the PT files:

18 years ago yesterday we were married by a Rabbi in Milwaukee. A few days later, we returned to the Bronx, where we moved into our first apartment at Einstein Medical School. We needed a civil marriage license too for some reason, so we went down to the Queens Courthouse to get a civil ceremony. I remember we had to find some witness, so we grabbed a random couple. Then the judge, a very nice Black woman with a denim pant-suit who was standing in front of a sign that read "Please do not throw rice" said some mumbo-jumbo and pronounced us married.

A few weeks later, we received our marriage certificate. My wife read it aloud to me. It said that I was married to Isabel Cortez. I think my reaction was something along the line of, "Dang, woman, where my real wife at?" I'm not really sure who Mrs. B. ended up being married to. We never got that certificate. She had to go to downtown Manhattan to straighten it out. It made for a good laugh among the typing pool down there.

The marriage has more or less followed this pattern since then. Here's for many more years of psychotic lunacy!

1 comment:

PsychoToddler said...

Mazel tov!
Anonymous ben Kalonymous | 06.08.05 - 2:48 pm | #

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Happy Anniversary!
A Simple Jew | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 2:52 pm | #

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Mazal Tov
Greg T | 06.08.05 - 2:59 pm | #

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great post,good try you gonna still have to buy her something
amshinover | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 3:01 pm | #

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Curses! Foiled again! I'll get you, Amishlover...
psychotoddler | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 3:07 pm | #

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Mazal Tov and may you enjoy many more joyous years together.
Jewish Blogmiester | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 3:15 pm | #

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Congrats to both of you. Sounds like a great marriage. We're about 5 years (and 2 kids) behind you. Get a baby sitter and go somewhere where you can have dessert and no one frum will see you holding hands!
Doctor Bean | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 4:02 pm | #

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May you have many happy returns of the day


- Winnie the Pooh


Continued nachas and happiness
dilbert | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 4:58 pm | #

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Once upon a time in Mil-wau-kee
there lived the Skier clan, a little d-ynasty.
With a nurse for a mom and a doctor for a dad
Life in that house couldn't be all that bad.

In spite of the PsychoToddler
who raves and rants
No doubt Aba Mark continues
to wear the pants!

Once, not long ago,
Mark said to his wife,
"I think I'm gonna have me
a bloggin' life."

So between doctoring folks,
not davening Tachanun
he's blogging at his site
from mornin' till noon.

And for the last couple of days
he's publicly declared
that his love
is not straying anywhere.

It's been eighteen years
as Dr. and Mrs. --
and no doubt with clandestine
hugs and kisses.

To that Skier couple
we say once again,
"Continued happiness together,"
That's your cue to say "A-men!"
Pearl | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 5:03 pm | #

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Very nice, but I have to say stop making the rest of us men look bad. How are we going to match this. Grumble.
Jack | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 5:04 pm | #

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Pearl: That was outstanding!

Jack: Can YOU adjust your satellite dish?
psychotoddler | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 5:26 pm | #

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Mazal Tov Dr. Cortez! You know, I almost went to Einstein for grad school. Too bad, we could've met many years ago.
ball-and-chain | 06.08.05 - 5:30 pm | #

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Congrats. Where did you go on your honeymoon? It doesn't sound like you had one. I think you owe her, plus interest.

Hawaii is nice this time of year.
Anne | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 6:26 pm | #

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Happy anniversary! And many more, happy, happy years! You're lucky you have such a spunky wife!
Irina Tsukerman | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 10:31 pm | #

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Mazel Tov. I looked over your wife's blog just now and I think one thing you should do for the anniversary is to agree to try a new pizza place on your big summer trip.
All the best.
Adam | Homepage | 06.08.05 - 11:38 pm | #

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Better yet, if you can get a few hours off by yourselves, bli y'ladim, there's a nice new OU chalav yisrael restaurant on the Upper West Side of Manhattan, at about 99th St. and Broadway, called La Creperie. The food's good, and the prices aren't too ridiculous, but it's a bit small-ish (and the acoustics aren't great) for a family of 8. Leave the van in Queens and take the subway (#1 train to 96th Street).
Shira Salamone | Homepage | 06.09.05 - 1:13 am | #

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Adam: We liked the pizza place in Pittsburgh last year.

Shira: Last time I took the mrs. out to a fancy dairy restaurant for our anniversary, she looked at the food and said, "NOODLES!! I can make noodles at home for 65 cents!"

Anne: Don't help me.

BAC: I'm sure if you had met me in person you would be very unimpressed.

Irina: Luck had nothing to do with it. I intentionally misled her the whole time we were dating!
psychotoddler | Homepage | 06.09.05 - 9:55 am | #

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Mazal tov to both of you!

Oh, and a thanks to the Brewers for taking the Yanks 2 out of 3.
Marc | 06.09.05 - 11:08 am | #

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The sweep was not meant to be.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 06.09.05 - 11:26 am | #

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Now that I look a little closely at that photo, I see that Mrs. Balabusta has bewitching eyes -- that's probably what helped nab your heart all those years ago...
(either that, or Milwaukee-brewed beer...!)
Pearl | Homepage | 06.09.05 - 10:02 pm | #

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First of all, it wasn't the eyes, it was potato salad. He loved my potato salad and decided he couldn't liver wid out it. I stuck to my principles, I wouldn't give him my recipe until I got the ring. So in other words, actually, for some anniversary past, it may have been like 12 or something I got a real diamond ring, I still have it too. That was a shock, really, didn't expect it.

About the misleading me....
He told me he was from England. I thought I had a real gentleman, taught me how to shoot pool, the rest as they say is a mystery.

He forgot to mention the awesome stir fry I made him for dinner that night. That's the thing about living here, you learn how to do things besides order take out.

Like realigning the sattelite dish. The damn roofer. I think I blogged about this, and I can't remember if I did or if I was going to. This is one of those things like a mitzva if you had in mind to do it, it's as if it was already done. If I didn't write it up I will, because it's quite a story.

I should also tell you about the night last year after shavuous when I replaced a breaker switch in the main circuit box - talk about fun. I'll blog on that next. Stay tuned.
altered mental status | Homepage | 06.09.05 - 11:35 pm | #

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You're a lot braver than I am. When it comes to fooling around with anything electrical, I'm petrified! About the fanciest things I can manage are changing batteries and lightbulbs. So how did I end up with a kid majoring in physics whose idea of fun is to crack open the CPU tower and change the motherboard on my desktop ?

I wish the two of you many, many more happy years together.
Shira Salamone | Homepage | 06.10.05 - 12:55 am | #

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Your wife is very beautiful. Happy anniversary.
Wickwire | Homepage | 06.10.05 - 1:06 pm | #