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Monday, April 04, 2005

Public Service Announcement

(Note: This is not about YOU specifically.)

If you are identifiably Orthodox and you go out in public, please Please PLEASE behave yourself! Don't be rude, obnoxious, loud...don't cut ahead in line or refuse to pay your bills...don't let your kids run all over the place and make noise...and don't act like the world owes you something for being frum!

Whether you like it or not the entire Jewish nation is being judged by YOUR behavior, so you have a responsibility to be a good ambassador! Especially if you live someplace where they don't see a lot of Orthodox Jews.

So if you can't handle it, then do us all a favor and take off the Yarmulke!

That is all.

1 comment:

PsychoToddler said...

Agreed. If I'm about to get into some......the kippah is coming off.

Unfortunately where I live, MOST "frum" Jews are loud, obnoxious, non-Jew hating, make a scene in public, pricks!
prodly | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 3:33 pm | #

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Agree completely. Living in Chicago (relatively many religious Jews) and working in Indianapolis (not too many religious Jews) I can attest to that. People in Indy respect the devotion to Judaism - so we have to do our best not to spoil the relationship.
Gregory Titievsky | 04.04.05 - 3:35 pm | #

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Also, avoid picking your nose, turning your head quickly when you hear the sound of a coin, using more than 2 coupons, use the words "free," "sale," and "cheap."
velvel | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 3:40 pm | #

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Thank you. This needs to be printed out and handed on sidewalks to violators.

I have the motor skills it takes to keep my tzitzit [fringes on the corners of garments] tucked in. If you don't, then you better behave in an exemplary fashion.
Doctor Bean | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 3:48 pm | #

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No nose picking? Cwap.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 4:19 pm | #

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Why would I want to keep my tzitzit tucked in? Isnt it easier to not be an A--Hole?
prodly | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 6:00 pm | #

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We tell my kids exactly what you said in your post. My little ones don't really get it, but my 9 year old does. This is an important message for frum people to keep in mind. I agree, but it sounds like something in particular happened to make you write the post.

On the same note, my mother, who is not frum, always makes a point of looking good, if not her best. She gets dressed to go to the grocery store or run other errands. I used to think it was a waste of time, but since becoming frum and realizing that when people see me, they see all frum ladies, I must do my best to look good. I always wear my sheitel when I leave the house, for instance. I don't wear shleppy clothes. I also don't let my kids wear shleppy clothes. No jeans (unless they are on a baby or denim jumper for the girls)

As for the kids behaving, well, that can be tough. People see frum kids running around and think, "Ach, those religious people and their millions of kids and they can't even take care of them." But if they aren't frum kids, well, then it's just kids running around or kids not behaving.

(sorry to ramble)
Yetta | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 7:43 pm | #

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I feel guilty already, and I'm not even Orthodox (or married, or with kids, or a guy).
Irina Tsukerman | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 9:29 pm | #

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It is important to look good. But it is more important to act good.

Yetta, you're right. Sometimes I feel I have to be extra good to make up for other people's bad behavior.

'Nuff said on that matter.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 9:43 pm | #

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I wrote about this recently...
toohock | Homepage | 04.04.05 - 9:55 pm | #

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I always take off my yarmulke when I'm misbehaving.
Cara | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 10:57 am | #

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PT, this is the post of all posts, short, sweet, and so right on the money, i have a post half written about the sickness that is frum people scamming everyone and everything in sight, and I am SO linking to your post.

You gotta represent, ya know?
Chaim | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 12:14 pm | #

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It has to mean SOMETHING, don't you think? It's not just the oylam is a goylam so screw everyone else. What else makes us special?
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 12:29 pm | #

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How true! Although it does bring to mind a famous story. There were some
people who felt that one should not be attending movies etc.. Perhaps if someone wanted to attend a movie theater he should do so by removing his yamulka. This question was posed
to Reb Moshe Finestein Zt'l and he said better they should keep it on.
By removing ones Yamulka who knows whtas next, tzitzis etc. Of course one should always act curtious etc.
Jewish Blogmiester | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 1:34 pm | #

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Good words from the great PT. I'm amazed how my guards go right down when I see a man wearing a yarmulke. Same with a priest collar tab. They're holy people to me.
Wickwire | 04.05.05 - 1:36 pm | #

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Wickwire, you're in the minority I think. Most people seem to have the opposite reaction these days.

I wish more people made an effort to justify your trust.

Blogmeister: I'm surprised he didn't say "don't go to the movies." That's what I was told, and that's why I stopped asking those questions.

I like to think that no matter where I am, I act in such a way that I'm not embarrassed to wear a yarmulke.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 2:18 pm | #

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Wick, unfortunately I would tell you to be careful, not every Jew wearing a yarmulke is holy, other than the spark of g-dlyness part, many people can be downright unholy.

The first time i came to NY i was around 15 and as the young trouble maker I was, i was at a midnight showing of a movie in the city and I could NOT believe what I saw, Chaseedish people, in full garb waiting online for a movie. I was shocked. Over the years I've come to learn that happens, but still think it's wrong.
Chaim | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 4:01 pm | #

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Depends what kind of movie it was.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.05.05 - 4:45 pm | #

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The Devil's Advocate (I think)
ironic no?
Chaim | Homepage | 04.06.05 - 11:42 am | #

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You went to a midnight showing of The Devil's Advocate? Sheesh.

At least tell me you saw Chasidim at Rocky Horror or something.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.06.05 - 12:54 pm | #

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then they wouldn't stick out so much would they? Just more people dressed up. and hey don't question my rebelliousness
Chaim | Homepage | 04.06.05 - 1:20 pm | #

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Amen! You tell 'em brother!
tuesdaywishes | 04.06.05 - 1:45 pm | #

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Chaim:

I think you need to work a little harder than a crappy Keanu Reeves movie for your rebelliousness.

No slacking! If you're going to do something, do it right!
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.06.05 - 2:14 pm | #

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Well, im older now, best I muster up us to watch a kids movie when the kids are sleeping till 1 am and my wife laughs at me cause im watching Incredibles at 11pm alone. lol
Chaim | Homepage | 04.06.05 - 2:37 pm | #

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what an important post! It's the message I try to impart to my kids.

two true happenings. Friend of mine goes into an Internet cafe in Brussels. Chassid sits at computer next to him, and starts to surf porn sites. This friend is not frum, and was ashamed and embarrassed to be Jewish.
Driving into town, in London, around 6 am (I worked a market) I saw 2 chassidim "talking" with two ladies of the night outside Kings Cross station.

When you dress a certain way, you represent your whole people. And just because you wear a kippah or a sheital does not make you a great person either.

Live life the right way.

Thanks for encouraging me to delurk,

Ciao
kiki
Kiki | Homepage | 04.07.05 - 11:05 pm | #

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Wow, Kiki. Thanks for commenting. I wasn't even talking about this kind of behavior. I was talking about everyday courtesy.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.07.05 - 11:39 pm | #

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unfortunately common courtesy is not as common as it should be. It should be taught along with how to walk and talk. I love when the boys rebbes / teachers tell me that they love when my boys say please and thank you and excuse me. i hate that they feel the need to point it out - shouldn't that be the norm?

Shabbat Shalom.
Kiki | Homepage | 04.08.05 - 7:58 am | #

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Derech eretz kadma leTorah. Or so I was taught.
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.08.05 - 9:42 am | #

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Being a member of a small religion in my area (Buckle of the Bible Belt, Holla!) I get ill when I see people wearing our religious symbols making trouble or being stupid in general. We have enough trouble with the prevailing ideology here without confirming people's worst suspicions.

"Don't make the community look bad" is the heart of any community, and I have called people on it before, because I am a confrontational person.
parcequilfaut | Homepage | 04.14.05 - 8:24 pm | #

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Parcequil...slkjf

What religion, if you don't mind my asking?
psychotoddler | Homepage | 04.15.05 - 2:31 pm | #